i cannot take it any longer, what should i do?

i cannot take it any longer, what should i do?i am 16 years old and am really passive - never stand up for myself. i have been stuck in a toxic "friendship" for two years with a girl who thinks we are best friends. i have known for about 1.5 years that she is dangerous. extremely self-centered, gossipy, manipulative, and just plain rude. she has dissed my family, my friends, my choice of college....and is generally just a negative whiny person and i feel miserable after hanging out with her. it's almost become an addiction for me b/c however much i dislike her, i still keep doing things with her. a few weeks ago, i reached my breaking point. my doctors and family say i absolutely need to end the friendship - that the toll she is taking on my mental/emotional health is "lethal". i don't know how or when to do this, but i know that i have to - and fast. i think about her all the time - i just can't get her out of my head. i think it's b/c of this unfinished business. what should i do and how should i go about doing it?

Answer by Richard B
You just have to get a grip on yourself and do this for your own mental and emotional health. Stop hanging out with her. Period. Make new friends. If she confronts you about this just tell her how much harm she has done. The problem then ceases to be yours and becomes hers. Don't moon around about this any longer. It's time for action. Just do it.

Answer by zastastic!OHSNAP!
slap her across the face and be like I AM DONE WITH YOUR SH*T.
then move on and find new, nice friends and you will fee SO much better.

good luck i hope this works out for you because no one deserves a "friend" like that.

Answer by Annalyse
You don't sound as passive as all that, describing your situation... maybe you used to be but as you're growing up, I think you're changing ~~ because it does sound like you see the need for change. I agree from what you say, things need to change.

Ducking out of a clear answer, though, I think the best way forward for you would be to decide for yourself what you'd like to do, then weigh up what you actually can do, then choose the option you like best.

Answer by celestialtears006
Realize that nothing lasts forever that includes your health.

Have you ever confronted her with the issue told her how you feel?

What are you talking about 'unfinished business? Is it revenge? if so forget about it you have so much to look forward to independence is so hard.

I'd definitely say tell her how you feel. If she doesn't change or consider your feelings just get her out of your life you can do it quite overdone yet to the point by getting a restraining order if you must.

Answer by nini
You just have to stop all contact with her, and try spend more time with other friends/ family. If she is self-centred, gossipy, manipulative etc. she is certainly NOT worth having as a firend, and she will only drag you down to her level. Just be strong and forget about her xx

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