I am currently enrolled and doing good in college, a college reachable by train. It's my first semester for reasons I'm not up to explaining at the moment, so I have no credits or grades yet.
I am currently living with my stepfather who works for the DOHMH (Department of Health and Mental Hygiene). He has a rather high up position. He is the legal owner of my dog, Dakota.
I have found myself in a predicament. Growing up, my stepfather was creepy towards me and abusive in ways I am not detailing. In general, I do not feel safe around him. He yells at me a lot and screams at me a lot, and I feel scared of him very often. He has hit me in the past, and the last time he hit me was within the last four months.
I do not like living here. I want to remain in college, and I want to take my dog with me if I do move, but where to I do not know. It just is not safe here. And I cannot take my dog because she is legally his, and he refuses to sign her over to me because he's "waiting for the right time to drop Dakota off at the pound / ASPCA". I have no job currently, but have applied to a few and am waiting responses.
I have no friends for the most part, and sadly my support system consists of my stepfather and my boyfriend (age 23), who lives with his parents in NJ and who have made it 100% clear I am not allowed to move into their house. They have been aware of the abuse I have been going through for about four or five years, and even so, nothing was done about it. ACS had gotten involved with my family about 3-4 years ago. They ultimately decided I should stay here because my stepdad pretended he was nice and kind and fun, and he told me if I did stay that he would buy me a house when I move out and never hurt me again and that we'd be more like a family. I accepted eagerly. As you can tell, didn't work out.
I had been suggested previously to go to a Women's Shelter by staff at my school, though my stepfather brags about the fact he can find anybody in NYC because he works for the DOHMH. Someone said I should go to CT then. But I do not have a driver's license.
I am very scared and unsure what to do. I want to leave, but my willpower has been mostly crushed and he has made it very clear to me that if I do not do things the ways he wants that I will suffer for it.
My mother is deceased (cancer) and she has no family that I can contact. My brothers and sisters are all in bad situations, save two who will not talk to me no matter what and I do not know where they live. I do not know my biological father.
What am I supposed to do?
Answer by rosalie8787
You could try to find an apartment and roommate/s that would be willing to live with a dog.
The situation you are currently in is not fair to you to be living with a man who treats you abusively.
I am not sure about NYC but in my city some of the larger pet stores have small shelters set up for people on hard times who do not want to abandon their pets. Choosing one of those places to go to if you cannot find a roommate right away might be the best option because those shelters are probably not on your stepfather's radar if he is working for DOHMH (my bf works for Dept of Mental Health in south carolina and they do not check into or half the time know of them).
I am sorry you are in this situation, especially since you seem to have your head on straight. Definitely take Dakota with you and have her/his tags changed and maybe look for an apt in NJ
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