ive used this mental health forum on yahoo answers for 3 / 4 years now, its been a great medium to express my life story, situations and ask questions regarding it.
ive had a lot '' a lot '' of people reach out to me ...i used to message them back, built up a close rapor with many.....alot of people reaching out , wanting to befriend me.
i added many to my yahoo messenger.
i found it hard to keep communication going because of my very low moods, very low self esteem, clingyness......difficulty in reaching out....not good social skills.......difficulty in being confident....acting intense , eager for friendship......needy...too intense etc.
i have bpd so making and holding onto relationships is very difficult.
the depressing thing is i cant remember half of who used to message me.....but they were good people.........the people on yahoo messenger havent been online for a very long time and just seemed to taper off contact with me....or lose interest..
some i let slip by because of my social problems, very low self worth...and mood dips.....and not answering their messages.......which i extremely regret..
i cant remember half their emails as they were in old yahoo answer accounts that have been suspended...
the ones on messenger , ive left messages expressing my sadness at not hearing from them - i get no reply.
i miss all my old internet friends who i used to message and correspond with.
i feel paranoid like they were told to stop getting in touch with me..
there was a girl in kansas , a girl in ontario canada ....others etc.
on the few times ive found an email of a person i could remember, and emailed them.......they never got back intouch....nothing.
how can i handle this rejection, disappointment ? getting no response from messaging them ?
i feel angry sat here and very depressed.
Answer by alyanna99
Well, you've found me again and now that I'm through the worst, I'm here to be supportive. Everyone has their own set of problems and I wouldn't look at it as a reflection of you, rather everyone needs to take care of their own well being first, before they can reach out to help and be beneficial to others. People come and go throughout our lives, that's just the nature of things, especially online. That's why it is important to find a friend that lives near you so that you can communicate with someone in the flesh and hear the intonations in their voice and see the expressions on their face. You can get type-written support from a computer, but it does not replace a warm body near you. I think what you struggle with is that you are so focused on your problems that you project an unhealthy aura when you are in public. Being on a computer all day everyday is not going to help you in the long run. You may get some great advice and learn something new, but you have this barrier in front of you that is hampering your social skills. People follow your questions and responses because you ARE interesting and you have some very profound ideas. You need to share those with people in real life and not just type away at a screen. Join a book club at your local bookstore - it is inexpensive (just the cost of the book) and you are likely to meet some great women with common interests. Hope this helps.
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