i have very low self esteem and fighting mental health probs that ive had for over a decade?

i have very low self esteem and fighting mental health probs that ive had for over a decade?im 29 now, an ive been speaking to a girl from canada whom ive been speaking to a year, and i have grown very fond of, weve spoken on webcam a few times. but we both live to totally different lifestyles, shes approaching 20, she lives with her parents. i live on my own in my own flat and on benefit because i cant work because im not able, because of mental health. i have my own ' tough' personal struggles. i live in a rough neighbour hood that im working towards leaving. theres alot of antisocial young thugs where iam, which cause excessive noise and general intimidating behavior. im far from well off. i live in a small flat with not very much that i own. i have panic and anxiety and have very low moods that floor me. all this has been going on years and years. i see a psychiatrist soon an are going to address my problems i hope. but the problem is none of this the girl knows about. and im worried how im going to maintain my relashionship with her with such low low self esteem??

Answer by piepiepie
She likes you for a reason. Ask her why and then believe her.

Answer by arockchick21
If you're seeing a shrink then it'd be a good idea to tell them all this, that's what they get paid for! Also if you're not ready to tell her don't force yourself, unless she's pushing for answers or you've been lying to her(and I'm not insinuating you have been it's just a possibility) then you're not actually hiding anything from her. If you're as close to her as you say then she will probably be supportive but then on the other hand you never know. You need to be prepared for rejection but don't expect it. If you need a break from the friendship you should really tell her, you don't need to be too specific but you might need to until you get yourself together but it's up to you!

Answer by callaudrey2pray@sbcglobal.net
SEE you psych DR> do what they ask enter into counseling to help you understand your mental problems DON"Discouraged and don't think this is a quick fix. Learn to fix your self and to be content with yourself. Let God help you with your problems. Forgive all the other people for the things that they have done to hurt you let go of hate anger it only causes a tree of bitterness to grow in your life. .

Answer by escapingmars
I have suffered from aniexty and panic disorder with depression. With proper medication and counseling, I have been able to do all kinds of things.

Once you have some freedom in the mind, which the phyciatrist should help you with you can get a part time job as long as it won't miss up your benefits. This may help with your self esteem and give you additional monies. Further, you can volunteer somewhere if you can't work.

I know how you struggle. I have been there and done that. I got so bad at one time I wouldn't go out of the house, because as soon as I walked out the door I would have a panic attack. I couldn't drive a car, ride in a car, walk down the rode, watch t.v. (couldn't focus), sleep and when I did sleep my dreams were violent and restless.

Today: I drive over bridges, which is huge for me that I drive at all, let alone over bridges and highways, go anywhere and do anything. This took years to achieve, if I can do it so can you!

I don't know about this girl. Honestly, I am more concerned about you then what this girl thinks. I know she means a lot to you. The fact she is only 20 years old and hasn't experienced much of the world, she simply may not understand how crippling constant undefined fear and panic can be to a person.

Please focus on yourself! Make a change for your sake, not hers or anyone elses!

You may suffer from something other then anix/panic disorder or PTSD. If you want to talk to me anytime you can e-mail me

escapingmars@yahoo.com

Good Luck and Take Care

Answer by Spirita
This is very good blog, a beginner's guide to abnormal psychology.
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